As an adoptee and an adoptive parent, I was offended by the ungrateful and insensitive statements made by the “lost adoptees” (“For families and children, there are 2 sides to adoption,” July 17). These are extreme viewpoints and not typical of adult adoptees.
Having discussed the subject with many other adoptees, I can tell you that most are happy with their adoptive families and consider them to be their “real” families. While the longing to know one’s biological roots cannot be denied, it is usually founded in the desire to have a more complete sense of oneself and vital medical information.
Upon meeting with the birth family, most adoptees do not feel any emotional connection. In my own experience, I was even more appreciative of my adoptive family and thankful that my birth mother had chosen such a loving plan for me during a most difficult period of her life.
For those of us who were adopted, the true bond is with the loving parents who have nurtured us since birth.
