Q. Sometimes when I make love with my boyfriend I don’t feel excited. I don’t know what to do. He loves me and I love him, but I simply do not know how to have good sex.
A. As long as you do enjoy having sex with him at some times, you can still make love with him at other times so that he is satisfied and you don’t have to feel the need to have an orgasm yourself. The important thing to remember is that you have to be the one to decide that you want to do this. If he pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to, that is a very serious issue. But if he asks and you say OK, there’s nothing wrong with it. If you never enjoy having sex, if you never climax, you should read some books on the subject. If it’s only an occasional thing, don’t worry about it.
