Mary E. Ahern McDermott, resident of the Resurrection Retirement Center, died on March 6, 2002. She was the Second-born daughter of the late Nora Murphy Ahern and Capt. Daniel Ahern, C.F.D., and survived her older sister, Peg Ahern and younger sisters, Noreen “Tabby” Pohl and Betty Coleman; Mary’s husband was the late Barney McDermott C.F.D., who she constantly celebrated for his wisdom, benevolence and accomplishments and whose innocent idiosyncrasies provided many a laugh. Remaining are her sister, Kate (Fred) Gourley; and brother Jack (Linda) Ahern, C.F.D., as well as many nieces and nephews. Her children, Cathy (Mick) Donahue, RN; Ellen (Doug) Davidson and Noreen (Tighe) Zimmers were a source of quiet pride for Mary, but she saw no reason to keep quiet about her grandchildren, Pat (Kathy) Donahue, Mike Donahue, MD, Brian (Gretel) Donahue, MD, Katie (Pat) Costello, Mary Ann Donahue, RN, Nora Davidson, RN, Joan Davidson, Phil Davidson, Colin Zimmers and Therese Zimmers, nor her great-grandchildren, Trevor and Claire Donahue and Catherine Costello. The grandchildren were often treated to “pick out what you want” shopping trips with Grandma and spoiled by the sometimes furtive transfer of folded currency, usually of surprisingly large denomination. Of course her car was always there for the asking, whether she needed it or not. Mary liked just about everybody, and gave others the benefit of the doubt. Of course there was never a doubt if one was Irish, a fire fighter or a member of the medical profession. Mary was a worker and a care giver. Ever since young adulthood, she shared her home with and at various times cared for handicapped sister, Peg; father, Dan; father-in-law, Tom and brother-in-law, Jim. All were treated as honored guests, never as a burden. Although at times she had to work like Cinderella, Mary managed to look like the Prince’s date, always dressed like she was en route to a garden party or concert, even when the menial was at hand. Her elegance and fastidiousness caused sister Tabby to dub her, “Society Lil”. She accepted teasing with grace and equanimity, but the stylishness was never to be confused with self-indulgence. To Mary, few things presented or done by others were exempt from the most lavish praise, the only notable exceptions being cats and anything with too much garlic. Characteristically, Mary’s body will go to medical science and services will be private. Memorial donations to Misericordia Home are encouraged. Anyone making a donation or otherwide interested can be notified of a remembrance celebration to be held later. Wasn’t she lovely. Info: 708-383-5700
