How to deal when the bride-to-be turns into a brute
Bridezilla is a species all her own. This creature, who’s characterized by extreme wedding-related narcissism, can be tough to handle.
The good news is that her mutation is temporary–after the honeymoon she’ll morph right back into the rational, good-natured friend you know and love.
The bad news is that you’ll have six months or longer to tolerate incessant talk of ice sculptures and martini luges, non-stop debate about the merits of buttercream versus fondant . . . and never, ever will the conversation turn back to you.
So how do you deal with this temporary state of insanity? We’ve got some strategies.
Nod a lot
She doesn’t really want your opinion. She just wants a yes-man. Anyway, if you tell her she’s being selfish by refusing to let her mother choose her own dress, she’ll just ignore you.
Try to cooperate
She may start calling you with wedding-related requests, particularly if you’re in the wedding party. If they’re reasonable, try to help–that’s what you’re there for. If they’re unreasonable–like asking her bridesmaids to dye their hair the same color and drop down to a size 2–it’s time to draw the line.
Show her the light
She may not even know she’s become Bridezilla. When it gets to the point that even her cat doesn’t want to be in the same room, gently break it to her that she’s out of control. Or just anonymously send her this article. Hopefully, she’ll get the picture.
Give up
Except for wedding-mandated affairs including showers and engagement parties, avoid her as much as possible. Empathize with the groom. And hope the extreme self-absorption subsides, postwedding. If not, consider severing this relationship for good. (Just be sure to get the name of that great caterer first!)–jennifer rung is a redeye special contributor.
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Here comes the guide!
Whether you’re getting hitched or you plan on whooping it up at your buddy’s nuptials, RedEye’s Wedding Guide has something for you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll give you the ins and outs on everything from fashion to food.
This week: So what exactly does a bridesmaid have to do? Wedding party responsibilities. Also: creative bachelor and bachelorette party ideas and how to cope with Bridezilla.
Feb. 17: Not into crinoline and lace or tuxes? What to wear if you’re looking to buck tradition.
Plus: wedding theme ideas and DJs vs. wedding singers.
Feb. 24: Local caterers for a budget or blowout feast, how to let the good times flow without bankrupting yourself for an open bar, and tipping points.
