The Secrets of Happily Married Women
By Scott Haltzman, MD, and Theresa Foy DiGeronimo (Jossey-Bass, $22,95)
Some women retain a confident spark when dealing with the stresses of life that beat other women down. Often the secret, Haltzman says, is a happy marriage.
1. Want something from him? “Ask for it, using short, simple sentences that put the request up front.”
2. The average male attention span is 5 minutes. In females it’s 15 minutes.
3. Women have a soothing, maternal nature that “enables you to read the feelings and thoughts of others, detect emotional subtleties, and respond in appropriate ways.”
4. “By getting to know a man’s inborn traits, a woman can enjoy his strengths as well as better understand his weaknesses. At the same time, this knowledge puts her in a position where she can use her mysterious yet wonderful feminine nature to bring out the best in the man she loves.”
5. Happy couples aren’t problem-free; they have learned how to resolve problems. “The goal is happiness, not war.”
