Did everyone remember to “spring forward” into an abyss of despair where it still snows in March? Good! Let’s move on to more pressing issues then, like this spring’s quick and dirty advice, which is sure to make you, well, sprung.
What are the pros and cons of having sex with another couple on the same bed in the same room?
Pros: More people to high-five. Extra visual stimuli/eye candy. Variety. More bodies/activity to distract you. Sexual adventure. It’s kinky. The possible realization of a fantasy. You’re kinda having an orgy but your risk level is still pretty low (assuming y’all don’t cross the streams). Another couple is watching you.
Cons: More chances to be elbowed in the eye. More bodies/activity to distract you. Unless your bed is a California King, space will be an issue. (It still might be even with a King.) One or all of you may experience performance anxiety. If you interact with this couple regularly, it may change your relationship. Jealousy. Possible hurt feelings. More laundry. All of you have to be at least mild exhibitionists. Another couple is watching you.
My boyfriend is friends with his exes. Can these relationships exist where neither party is still wanting each other? I don’t like it.
Of course it’s possible! But even if they do still “want” each other, it doesn’t mean they’ll ever act on it. Being on friendly terms with one’s exes is generally a GOOD sign, however. It means their exes consider them worth keeping around, and that they behaved with integrity and composure even in the wake of a breakup. (Not always an easy thing to do.)
How about orgasms for a 73-year-old widow who has just returned to being sexual? It seems to be impossible for me with a partner.
How about them, indeed! I myself am a fan of you getting all the orgasms. Be patient and compassionate toward yourself and your partner(s). As I said last week, the more pressure and expectations you place on yourself, the harder it will be to reach the big O. Focus instead on pleasure — giving it and getting it. Along the way, don’t be afraid to tell your partner how you like (and don’t like) to be touched. If you’re not totally sure (or it’s changed), masturbation is great for figuring this out. And for getting yourself off, in the meantime.
Madly in love with this guy, but his jealousy is driving me crazy. He doesn’t even like that I interact with guys — any guys! — on Facebook. What can I do?
Tell him (once, simply and directly) that you can and will interact with whoever the hell you want, and if he can’t hack it, then send him a GIF of ’N SYNC waving “bye bye bye.”
Anna Pulley is a RedEye contributor. Want to ask Anna an anonymous question about love, sex or dating? Send it below, or email redeyedating@gmail.com.
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