Dear Ann Landers: Last Valentine`s Day you printed 12 Rules for a Happy Marriage.
My husband and I (married only two years) had been having some trouble.
I sat him down with that column and we both agreed we would do our level best to follow your guidelines.
What a terrific move that was! We`ve been getting along 100 percent better now that each of us knows what is expected of us.
Please run that column again for the couples who didn`t see it last year and for those who need to see it again.
Jay and I agree that it had a lot to do with saving our marriage.
Tee and Jay
Dear Tee and Jay: Thank you for asking. Your letter was a lovely valentine for me. Here it is:
12 Rules for a Happy Marriage
1. Never both be angry at once.
2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3. Yield to the wishes of the other as an exercise in self-discipline if you can`t think of a better reason.
4. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate.
5. If you feel you must criticize, do so lovingly.
6. Never bring up a mistake of the past. Your silence will be greatly appreciated.
7. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
8. Never let the day end without saying at least one complimentary thing to your life`s partner.
9. Never meet without an affectionate greeting.
10. When you`ve said or done something hurtful, acknowledge it and ask for forgiveness.
11. Remember, it takes two to get an argument going. Invariably the one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.
12. Never go to bed mad.
Flee the land of the bimbos
Dear Ann Landers: I have read with interest the letters in your column from lovely, intelligent, high-class women who have never had a date and can`t seem to attract a man.
One came from a 35-year-old virgin in California. The solution to her problem is so obvious I cannot for the life of me understand why she doesn`t see it.
Please give her this message:
Move out of California, woman. The only thing the men out there are interested in is bikini-clad bimbos.
There are herds of wanna-be starlets running around all over the place, eager, willing and ready to do anything for a part in a film. A decent woman doesn`t stand a chance.
Get thee to Alaska, Montana, Wyoming, Idaho, Arizona or New Mexico. It`s your only hope.
Fled L.A. and Now Happy in Santa Fe
Dear Happy: Here`s your letter. I`m glad this solution worked for you.
Gem: Remember, a kick in the rear isn`t always bad. It puts you one step forward.
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