Networking can be done in many places but one of the most effective ways to get ahead in the job search is to take a co-worker, boss or industry peer out for a meal. Meeting over lunch — or breakfast or dinner — is more casual than meeting at a career fair or over the phone.
“You conversation can be more personalized and in depth,” says Tom Compau, human resources director for VistaCare, a hospice service provider in Scottsdale, Ariz. “You can better influence someone in that environment than at a conference with a lot of distractions.”
The casual atmosphere of a meal also gives you a chance to project a portion of your personality that co-workers or your boss may not be aware of.
“Having lunch together is a good way to informally talk about job opportunities that are available for which you may be a good fit,” says Joan Jolly, a human resource specialist for Insperity. “Or where you may be able to take on new responsibilities.”
When planning a lunch date, start by determining all the appropriate logistics.
“On a psychological level, there are certain days to pick and certain days not to pick,” says Hellen Davis, author of “The 21 Laws of Influence” (Indaba Press, $19.95). “For example, if you were meeting with a mid-level person, then any day but Friday is good to meet. That’s because on Friday they start to scramble to get stuff done before the weekend.”
In addition to picking the right day, it’s also important to pick the right setting — breakfast, lunch or dinner. Once you’ve decided on the date and location, it’s time to ask them in the appropriate manner.
“The best way to ask is to just say, ‘We haven’t talked in a while and I’d like to bounce some ideas off you with regards to my next step in my career,'” says Davis. “You have to sell them on it ahead of time — never blindside them.”
