Q. I will try to phrase this without seeming crude: I am very attracted to my fiance’s buttocks. So much so, in fact, that really good sex only follows my envisaging having carnal knowledge of them. (I am a female.) Is this normal? Should I worry? If he enjoys the thought, does he have homosexual tendencies?
A. If the two of you have a loving relationship and if you can get aroused only by having certain fantasies about his buttocks, then my advice is to keep your mouth shut and use those fantasies. Don’t worry about sharing it or whether or not it is normal and certainly don’t be concerned about any homosexual tendencies on his part since these are your fantasies.
My advice to you is to add to your repertoire of fantasies so you don’t become “stuck” on this one the rest of your life. Indulge in this fantasy one night, and then the next night choose another one involving another part of his anatomy.
