You remember Lisa. Her life was the stuff of great dramas. She was a true romantic, a woman who lived for love but wasn’t giving or getting any. She was stifled in an unhappy marriage. “I used to see people holding hands, kissing in public and wonder if that would ever be me,” she said. “I had almost given up on ever finding my soul mate.” And then she did.
She found her soul mate at work. But unfortunately, it was after 10 years of marriage and two children, one only 4 years old. She divorced her husband, and Bruce, her heart’s desire, divorced his wife so they could live happily ever after. She exchanged a boring, plodding life for one filled with passion, intensity and great sex. Funny, most of you didn’t see it that way. You thought Lisa was nothing more than a selfish home-breaker. Here’s what you had to say . . .
Stacy: “When there are children involved, it is the ultimate sin to flirt and carry on in the work environment. Love means loyalty, honesty, commitment and communication. Lisa and Bruce are narcissistic. The world revolves around them and to hell with their marriage partners and their children. The children are the real losers. They don’t readily adjust as Lisa stated. There are many lingering scars that haunt them through adulthood. My ex-husband and a co-worker committed adultery two years ago. I was left with three small children (ages 2, 4, 6) who had no idea why their father didn’t want to live with them. Life is a major struggle for us. The children struggle with anxiety, fears and depression.”
Arthur: “Lisa said, `You can’t live your life for your children.’ She’s 100 percent wrong; not only can you, but you must. Like it or not, when you bring a child into the world you acquire the duty to put that child’s interests before your own. Lisa also says, `I’m sure as long as my son receives love from both parents, he’ll adjust fine.’ Wrong again. Study after study confirms the harm that divorce does to children. I don’t say this from the smug security of a happy marriage. My wife’s sarcasm, self-centeredness, and `my way or no way’ attitude would have driven me out the door long ago if not for my children. But I owe them a two-parent upbringing, and that’s what I’m determined to give them.”
Now, let’s not end before we have someone to stand up and defend Lisa.
Sandy: “I agree with Lisa’s decision regarding Bruce. How many people are in lousy marriages and yet do not have the energy, courage, etc. to obtain happiness even if they get the chance? My `anecdotal’ research indicates that there are a lot of people in that situation.”
